This month, I’ve decided to dedicate my posts to love. Not that sappy, sensual kind of love… LIFE LOVE. While Valentine’s Day is cool and all, I think we also need to remember to love ourselves and create a life that we are excited about. I’ll be posting a bunch of “love” posts dedicated to all aspects of life, including blog love, job love, and self love. I hope you like what I have planned!
The best thing about life is that we get to create our own destinations. It is the one thing we all have that is truly our own, and we get to decide how it happens. Fate and spirituality aside, we are in total control of the choices we make and how we handle situations. That’s the beauty of having a brain and living, isn’t it?
We may struggle at times and feel like we can’t do what we want to do… be it with work, family, or other aspects of our lives, but the truth is, we can. Some of us put up with so much unnecessary stress but the fact is, we place it there ourselves.
I’m going to be my usual blunt self for a minute and tell you this: you don’t have to put up with bullshit. Negativity, situations that make you feel less than who you are, and (what I like to call) “power-hoarding people” are all present in your life because you let them be. You don’t have to put up with anything, at any time, from anyone.
I’ve not had to deal with “superiors” or silly class/workroom drama for so many years, but I have spent a lot of time listening to other people complain and cry either about certain aspects of their lives, their bosses, and even the conditions they’ve been living or working in. I know where they’re coming from, even I used to be one of them. But being completely removed from those types of scenes for long periods of time has given me a fresh perspective and one that always leaves me chiming in “you don’t have to deal with that!”.
Anything that makes you feel less happy or uncomfortable doesn’t have to be tolerated. There is always a way to change a situation and too many of us are afraid to do so. If you feel mistreated by someone, say something. If you’re in a bad relationship, leave. If you hate your job, get a new one. It might alter your path slightly but it doesn’t mean you won’t ever find your way back on track. Like I said, it’s so simple… you are in control!
“But… but…” I know those “buts” come easily. They are put in your mind to make you feel as though you can’t do something, because actually doing something might take you out of your own comfort zone. Ask yourself this every time you question yourself by spewing out a “but”: “but, it’s technically possible, right?” Meaning, you could actually do something about it if you wanted to or tried hard enough, couldn’t you? It might be hard, but you could alter your life slightly to find your happiness.
That’s not to say that I think you should disrespect your superiors and start telling everyone off, I just believe that as people in general, all of us are equal and none of us have a right to make someone else feel less superior in life. A manager isn’t a better person than a store clerk, just like an older person doesn’t always know more than someone half their age. I think those are important things to remember in regards to how we treat each other and how we think about other people.
So when you start complaining about certain aspects of your life that you think you have to just deal with, realize that you don’t. You deserve more than that, and trust me, when you look back on your life you’ll wonder why you put up with those situations for so long. You deserve a life you love with no stress. You are capable of making a change, you just have to change your way of thinking to make it happen.
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I love this article. I have zero tolerance for bullshit and Ii know when to bite my tongue and when not to. I actually have a great job, amazing husband but it’s some of our friends that are vexing me currently.
I’m painted as the bad guy by some for not tolerating passive aggressive bullshit and calling it out. I’m of a mind that when someone hurts you or there is what a problem, you go to that person and deal with it. I wish everyone thought like that because with some of the folks around here, they would rather talk behind your back, make shit up and pretend they’re angelic representations of Jesus right here on earth.
I hate to cut people out of my life but I think it’s the only option sometimes when you’re dealing with stressful, deceitful people.
I love this article.
I’ve been painted as the bad guy before for not being able to deal with bullshit. I feel when there is a problem, you address it and deal with it instead of using some kind of passive aggressive behavior to hurt people.
My intention is to never hurt someone’s feelings but some people play the victim so well, they never understand anything from any perspective but their own.
I think it’s best to let go of the negative in your life, if you can without going broke, and move on. Some people are put on this earth to make us learn a lesson and when that lesson is learned we can move on and go from there.